In case you have been living in a cave over the past few years, you know we live in a time of intense social media. So if I post it, you know about it.
I have to say I'm a sucker for some of the hilarious conversations that get started based on things people post on Facebook. In fact just yesterday a whole tangent got started on the mere fact the I posted that I wanted to go swimming. It makes me appreciate my friends and their humor.
I've also noticed that there seems to have to be a person that wants to a party pooper on a post. For example, someone will post that they are going to a concert they are really excited about, Most people will respond with positive, upbeat comments like, "Have fun!" or "I wish I was going!" But then there's that one person who feels the need to bag on the band and talk about how much they suck. I know they think they're just being playful, but it takes some of the joy out of it.
I know people like this in life. They are the ones who always have to point out the negative or tear someone down in order to join in the conversation. I call these people, "joy stealers."
Now, I 'm not sitting here claiming I have never been a joy stealer. I assure you I have been. I've taken a bad attitude with someone or make a quippy comment that just takes all the steam out of something. But my choice is to work not to be a joy stealer.
We all have different loves and passions. We are not all gonna love the same things. God, how boring would that be not to mention getting concert tickets would be a real pain in the butt.
Sarcasm and biting humor are pretty easy defaults. Trust me, I could have a whole other blog about the things I would love to bag on or tear down when I get riled up. But I don't want to put that out there. I don't want to move into a higher place because I'm standing on someone else.
I hope we can all think a little before we speak or type and make sure we are not stealing joy from one another. People have enough in their lives to tell them they are not enough and don't measure up. I know for myself I don't want to add to that.
May today be full of joy and may there be something you are really excited about that no one can touch.
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Thursday, July 8, 2010
What the Hell Are You Eating?
A few years back I started on a weight loss journey. I had injured my knee at work and the 2 1/2 year battle with workers comp had kept me from doing much. So in turn I gained weight and ended up the heaviest I had ever been in my life. When I saw my vacation photos from that year, I about fell over because I didn't realize how I looked, it was a big wake up call.
I had never been a diet girl, so when I got on a weight loss program I learned very quickly that I had to change the way I ate and my lifestyle. By getting more disciplined with what I put in my mouth, I not only lost the weight but I was amazed at how good I felt. Overall, I had more energy, me knees felt better and my body functioned better.
After a while, I went it on my own away from the program and ended up gaining some of the weight back, I felt junky and my knees started hurting again. All of that came from the fact I just wasn't watching what I feed myself.
I think the same things happens depending on what we feed our spirit. If you feel bitter, hopeless or angry, what have you been feeding yourself? Are you feeding yourself "junk food" that causes you to grow negative and nasty feelings?
I know some of those feelings came come from other sources that are outside our control (bipolar disorders, depression, etc.) but even then we have to be aware of what we take into ourselves. Those disorders also have catalysts.
We live in a time where we can see and hear just about anything we want to. And though we may be desensitized to such things, that's not a good thing. That is the same type of effect really junky, sugary food has on our bodies. Our receptors are dull and we need more and more stimulus in order to feel right. So we keep chasing the high and we end up feeling worse afterward. Things we have seen and heard we cannot undo,and we injure ourselves the more we feed off of it.
Often times, we surround ourselves with people who reinforce our behavior. That's why for a lot of people who are battling their weight, it can be hard to make a healthy change because the people they are around are not reinforcing that chance and encouraging it.
The same goes for our attitudes and the spiritual things we feed ourselves. If you are battling an addiction and want to make a break from it, more than likely you are going to have to meet with people who are also trying to break away from it. You don't want to continually surround yourself with people who will drag you back to that addiction.
It doesn't even need to be as severe as addiction. It can even be as simple as an attitudinal change. If the people around you are nasty and bitter people who don't want to grow, you more than likely are one of them or will become one of them. The things they continue to feed into themselves are not moving them to a place of hope or affirmation.
In order for me to lose the weight again, I had to get back to the good things I had been doing.
Examine the things you are "feeding" yourself. Are you filling up on spiritual junk food or being choosy?
And if you are filling up on junky things, maybe it's time for a weight loss program of the spirit. I know that will look different for everyone, but move towards health. Maybe it;s time to go back to therapy after not going for a while, maybe it's time to get back to church. Find what ways work for you or have in the past. And know, that it may feel wierd, it may feel like you cannot return to that place of health, but it's not too late.
I had never been a diet girl, so when I got on a weight loss program I learned very quickly that I had to change the way I ate and my lifestyle. By getting more disciplined with what I put in my mouth, I not only lost the weight but I was amazed at how good I felt. Overall, I had more energy, me knees felt better and my body functioned better.
After a while, I went it on my own away from the program and ended up gaining some of the weight back, I felt junky and my knees started hurting again. All of that came from the fact I just wasn't watching what I feed myself.
I think the same things happens depending on what we feed our spirit. If you feel bitter, hopeless or angry, what have you been feeding yourself? Are you feeding yourself "junk food" that causes you to grow negative and nasty feelings?
I know some of those feelings came come from other sources that are outside our control (bipolar disorders, depression, etc.) but even then we have to be aware of what we take into ourselves. Those disorders also have catalysts.
We live in a time where we can see and hear just about anything we want to. And though we may be desensitized to such things, that's not a good thing. That is the same type of effect really junky, sugary food has on our bodies. Our receptors are dull and we need more and more stimulus in order to feel right. So we keep chasing the high and we end up feeling worse afterward. Things we have seen and heard we cannot undo,and we injure ourselves the more we feed off of it.
Often times, we surround ourselves with people who reinforce our behavior. That's why for a lot of people who are battling their weight, it can be hard to make a healthy change because the people they are around are not reinforcing that chance and encouraging it.
The same goes for our attitudes and the spiritual things we feed ourselves. If you are battling an addiction and want to make a break from it, more than likely you are going to have to meet with people who are also trying to break away from it. You don't want to continually surround yourself with people who will drag you back to that addiction.
It doesn't even need to be as severe as addiction. It can even be as simple as an attitudinal change. If the people around you are nasty and bitter people who don't want to grow, you more than likely are one of them or will become one of them. The things they continue to feed into themselves are not moving them to a place of hope or affirmation.
In order for me to lose the weight again, I had to get back to the good things I had been doing.
Examine the things you are "feeding" yourself. Are you filling up on spiritual junk food or being choosy?
And if you are filling up on junky things, maybe it's time for a weight loss program of the spirit. I know that will look different for everyone, but move towards health. Maybe it;s time to go back to therapy after not going for a while, maybe it's time to get back to church. Find what ways work for you or have in the past. And know, that it may feel wierd, it may feel like you cannot return to that place of health, but it's not too late.
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
I Knew You When
I dream when I sleep. Lately I have been dreaming a lot about people from my past. Naturally, when I wake up from those dreams, I am thinking about the person I was dreaming about. I wonder how they are and where life has taken them. Sometimes I even say a prayer for them.
And of course, it's hard to think about a person from my past without thinking about the role I played in their life. Sometimes it was a good one and sometimes a bad one.
The good roles don't trip me up as much as the bad ones do. People I wasn't as kind to as I could have been, failed relationships, etc. Those are the people I wish I could see again and be a better person to them. But I know I may never have that closure. So knowing that, that is where grace comes into play.
If we are truly doing the work in our life that we are supposed to do, then we are always growing and changing. Which means, that the person we used to be no longer exists in the form people once knew. And hopefully the people we once knew are not the same either.
There is an Avett Brothers song called, "The Perfect Space," and it has the lyrics:
I wanna have friends, that I can trust.That love me for the man I've become not the man that I was
Those lyrics speak to me because it's something I want, and I want for others as well. But it's definitely something that is easier said than done. It means that we have to let go of not only our ideas of someone, but in many cases our past experiences with them as well. We have to forgive and try and understand where someone was and where they are now. Again, that is where grace comes into it.
I know I'm not the same person I was 5 and 10 years ago. I also know I am not the same person I was a few months ago. It's my hope that we could all make that statement and it is not only true but it is a positive thing.
About seven years ago, I interviewed the two Coreys about "The Lost Boys" sequel. The interview went well, both were really nice guys. One of the things I observed though was he dynamic between the two of them. Corey Feldman had clearly grown and changed over the years. He had gotten married and moved into a different space in his life working to become the man he wanted to be. Corey Haim (God rest his soul.) was clearly struggling with himself and was trying to engage Feldman as if they were still teenage boys. Although they did not express it on that day, the friction was clearly there. Haim was holding onto the idea of the Feldman he once knew and Feldman was being the man he'd become.
Are we doing that to people in our own life? Are we moving forward but continually trying to make someone play a role they not longer fit?
If we find that to be the case we are causing them harm. We need to try and have fresh eyes and see who they are today and in turn hopefully they will see us as the person we have become. If you are on the other end of that, then it's time to move away from that person until they can see you for who you are now.
I pray the people from my past are all doing well. I hope that they are prosperous and are becoming the men and women they want to be. And for all of you, I hope to see you all with fresh eyes I look forward to the growth and change that is in store.
And of course, it's hard to think about a person from my past without thinking about the role I played in their life. Sometimes it was a good one and sometimes a bad one.
The good roles don't trip me up as much as the bad ones do. People I wasn't as kind to as I could have been, failed relationships, etc. Those are the people I wish I could see again and be a better person to them. But I know I may never have that closure. So knowing that, that is where grace comes into play.
If we are truly doing the work in our life that we are supposed to do, then we are always growing and changing. Which means, that the person we used to be no longer exists in the form people once knew. And hopefully the people we once knew are not the same either.
There is an Avett Brothers song called, "The Perfect Space," and it has the lyrics:
I wanna have friends, that I can trust.That love me for the man I've become not the man that I was
Those lyrics speak to me because it's something I want, and I want for others as well. But it's definitely something that is easier said than done. It means that we have to let go of not only our ideas of someone, but in many cases our past experiences with them as well. We have to forgive and try and understand where someone was and where they are now. Again, that is where grace comes into it.
I know I'm not the same person I was 5 and 10 years ago. I also know I am not the same person I was a few months ago. It's my hope that we could all make that statement and it is not only true but it is a positive thing.
About seven years ago, I interviewed the two Coreys about "The Lost Boys" sequel. The interview went well, both were really nice guys. One of the things I observed though was he dynamic between the two of them. Corey Feldman had clearly grown and changed over the years. He had gotten married and moved into a different space in his life working to become the man he wanted to be. Corey Haim (God rest his soul.) was clearly struggling with himself and was trying to engage Feldman as if they were still teenage boys. Although they did not express it on that day, the friction was clearly there. Haim was holding onto the idea of the Feldman he once knew and Feldman was being the man he'd become.
Are we doing that to people in our own life? Are we moving forward but continually trying to make someone play a role they not longer fit?
If we find that to be the case we are causing them harm. We need to try and have fresh eyes and see who they are today and in turn hopefully they will see us as the person we have become. If you are on the other end of that, then it's time to move away from that person until they can see you for who you are now.
I pray the people from my past are all doing well. I hope that they are prosperous and are becoming the men and women they want to be. And for all of you, I hope to see you all with fresh eyes I look forward to the growth and change that is in store.
Monday, July 5, 2010
Some Musings about the 4th on the 5th.
The Fourth of July always makes me feel like summer is really here. Living in Southern California it can be hard to know when summer really starts and ends. But I really love the 4th for all the fun family time, burgers and dogs, kids running around all excited, and of course fireworks.
I was at a two different celebrations yesterday and had a great time at both. At the second one, is where I got to watch fireworks. While they were going off, one of my friend's daughters was running around waving an American flag and shouting, "Happy Fourth of July," over and over. Her enthusiasm was great. It reminded me how much I love where I live. Not just the city and county, but the country I live in.
I'm not here to take sides on any political situation. I just want to say that I love our country. I love that I have the freedom to write a political blog if I want to. I have a right to vote and speak freely. I have a right to bear arms and a right to sway what is going on in our country. I love that our constitution starts with, "We the People..." and that it can truly be that way if we continue to fight for it. I love that those of us who do comedy can really do any joke we want because of our freedom.
My father came to this country from England in 1959, he spent a homeless winter on the streets and then joined the Air Force because at the end they promised him his U.S. Citizenship. He served our country and became a citizen and still flies the American flag every day of his life. Our country didn't promise him that he would have a better life, but our freedom gives everyone the opportunity to have one. Dad and I may not agree on politics all the time, but I love how patriotic he is and how much he loves the country that has given him so many chances at starting over.
Some people chalk up patriotism to a Republican or conservative thing. I don't really think that's true. I don't think you have to agree with each others politics in order to love our country and be patriotic. I think our country was built by men and women who really wanted a place where we could be free to voice our opinions whether we agreed with each other or not. I know 234 years ago, times were a little simpler. I know they were not facing the same issues we face today, but I think if we can hold onto those simpler truths, we can still live in a great land.
I'll get off my red, white, and blue soap box now, but I am proud to be an American.
I hope you all had a safe and happy 4th.
I was at a two different celebrations yesterday and had a great time at both. At the second one, is where I got to watch fireworks. While they were going off, one of my friend's daughters was running around waving an American flag and shouting, "Happy Fourth of July," over and over. Her enthusiasm was great. It reminded me how much I love where I live. Not just the city and county, but the country I live in.
I'm not here to take sides on any political situation. I just want to say that I love our country. I love that I have the freedom to write a political blog if I want to. I have a right to vote and speak freely. I have a right to bear arms and a right to sway what is going on in our country. I love that our constitution starts with, "We the People..." and that it can truly be that way if we continue to fight for it. I love that those of us who do comedy can really do any joke we want because of our freedom.
My father came to this country from England in 1959, he spent a homeless winter on the streets and then joined the Air Force because at the end they promised him his U.S. Citizenship. He served our country and became a citizen and still flies the American flag every day of his life. Our country didn't promise him that he would have a better life, but our freedom gives everyone the opportunity to have one. Dad and I may not agree on politics all the time, but I love how patriotic he is and how much he loves the country that has given him so many chances at starting over.
Some people chalk up patriotism to a Republican or conservative thing. I don't really think that's true. I don't think you have to agree with each others politics in order to love our country and be patriotic. I think our country was built by men and women who really wanted a place where we could be free to voice our opinions whether we agreed with each other or not. I know 234 years ago, times were a little simpler. I know they were not facing the same issues we face today, but I think if we can hold onto those simpler truths, we can still live in a great land.
I'll get off my red, white, and blue soap box now, but I am proud to be an American.
I hope you all had a safe and happy 4th.
Thursday, July 1, 2010
A Good and Quick Reminder
Last night I went to see some friends do comedy at the Irvine Improv. It was a great night of laughter and getting to see them do what they were really made to do.
I also write (duh) and perform comedy and it was a reminder to keep moving towards the things I am meant to do.
This morning, I just want to encourage you all to keep focused on what you are made for. Keep moving towards it.
A short and sweet reminder this morning.
I also write (duh) and perform comedy and it was a reminder to keep moving towards the things I am meant to do.
This morning, I just want to encourage you all to keep focused on what you are made for. Keep moving towards it.
A short and sweet reminder this morning.
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