Sorry it's been almost 10 days folks. Life has been throwing a lot at me and I've needed to make space for things like cleaning and more cleaning. We've also been on the hunt for a roommate and my Dad had eyelid surgery yesterday. Things are still hectic, but here I am where I still should be, writing.
Today I had to drive to downtown LA for work. I do the drive a few times a month. Usually I listen to Cd's or my Ipod in the car. Today though, I actually turned on the radio. KROQ played a song by Big B called "Sinner."
Below are the lyrics:
I know, I know, I live the life of a sinner
But when it comes to other women, you're the only one hun so this is the beginning
Let's go, let's go
Let's live the life of a sinner
And we'll be living on the run, right here in the California sun
First of all I'd like to thank you for accepting this collect call
And to tell you that what you're bout to here is sincere
It's not the drugs or the alcohol
I know you said that it had to end
I don't expect you to bail me out again
But right now girl, you're my only friend
It's true, I did you wrong, for way too long
But that's the past so let's move on
It's a new song, so let it play on and on
From dusk to dawn
'Till the neighbors complain
Or the cops come
Oh the life of a sinner
In the California sun
I know, I know, I live the life of a sinner
But when it comes to other women, you're the only one hun so this is the beginning
Let's go, let's go
Let's live the life of a sinner
And we'll be living on the run, right here in the California sun
I wouldn't blame you if you just hung up
I understand that you're getting fed up
I can't say that this is the last time that this will happen
But I try, oh yes, I try
I say I wanna change, but I lie, oh yes I lie
And you know I stay consistent, yeah I ain't perfect but at least I admit it
And I ain't never gonna change, and don't forget it.
I know, I know, I live the life of a sinner
But when it comes to other women, you're the only one hun so this is the beginning
Let's go, let's go
Let's live the life of a sinner
And we'll be living on the run, right here in the California sun
Na na na na na na na na na na na na na na na na na na
Why don't you come and take a trip on the dark side
Just me and you sitting side by side
You can't knock [? ] until you seen it
I said this'd be the last time but this time I mean it
So let your head down, let your shoes get dirty
Let's take it slow yo there's no need to hurry
I'm a hold your hand the whole way so girl don't worry
No, don't worry
Na na na na na na No don't worry na na na na na na na na na na na na
I know, I know, I live the life of a sinner
But when it comes to other women, you're the only one hun so this is the beginning
Let's go, let's go
Let's live the life of a sinner
And we'll be living on the run, right here in the California sun
Let's go, let's go
Let's live the life of a sinner
And we'll be living on the run, right here in the California sun
I'm not going to go on about how he should look for redemption. (Although I think we can all be redeemed.) What strikes me is the idea of asking someone to settle.
Love songs used to be about love, or I've done you wrong and I've changed and please take me back. There seems to be a whole slew of songs and ideology out there about the idea that we should settle for what we've been dealt and not look for any better. The idea that people can treat us badly and that because we've known them for a time, that we should just accept their bad behavior.
What a crock of s#*t that idea is!!!
I'm sorry I just don't think we need to settle for people being bad or behaving badly towards us and others.
We all have that friend that acts jerky more than not, but no one calls them out on it. We need to. We need to truly be that persons friend and have a hard, yet truthful talk about the way they affect us. It might feel awkward, but it will cause your friendship to grow.
I know a lot of people who say people cannot change. They just are as they are and we need to accept them as such. I think people stay the same because we allow them to. Think about the people who have caused the greatest change in your own life. I bet that change wasn't easy at the time, but you probably look back and are thankful for it. We need to be catalysts for each other.
Granted, I don't want every interaction with my friends to be "hard" conversations. But I wouldn't really feel like someone was truly my friend if they couldn't call me out on bad behavior.
And those people who keep trying to send the message that you need to just accept their bad behavior may need to be gone from your life. I know it sounds cliche, but they just want to drag you down with them and keep you on their level so they don't have to grow.
Who is your life are you telling it's okay to behave badly? Who could you be a catalyst for? These are not always easy questions to ask, but they are worth answering.
Ok, that's it for now, my brain is fried and I need to turn it off for a while. I will see you all sooner than later.
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